This week we continue to keep busy. I continue to be disappointed in myself, and I continue to be astonished how much my kids are learning in spite of my deficiencies.
The thing that has continued to save our school has been our now weekly library trips. That’s at least one thing I’m doing right. Silje has been burying herself in reading and telling me all about it. We’ve really done well with math as well as some other subjects. I haven’t done so well in the history department. I’m determined to catch up in that department next week.
This last Tuesday, I took Silje and David to the eye doctor. I gave Silje and David a screening test that I printed from online. Silje seemed fine, but one of her eyes was stronger than the other. I was pretty certain that was normal, and her “bad eye” wasn’t even that bad. She was complaining of bluriness, though, and how she really thinks she needed glasses. I was pretty sure she just wanted glasses because some friend of hers got them.
I gave the test to David too, and there were a few more red flags. So I went online to see what typical signs (besides having one eye not managing the screening test very well) a child who needs glasses displays. Going down the list on some parenting site, I was thinking to myself: “David does that…that too…and that.” Pretty much everything on the list was a description of how he responds to different school activities.
So I made an eye appointment for each of the kids: the one who claims she need them, because who knows, I could be wrong, and the one who had some big red flags during my assessment.
Silje passed her eye exam with flying colors, much to her disappointment.
David had his exam next and did just fine with reading the letters on the wall, at which point I was pretty sure I was a fool to bring these 2 kids in. Then the doctor had him read some letters close up, and I could see the doctor quickly change methods. All of a sudden, the glass lenses on his contraption started clicking, and I could tell this exam was quickly going a different direction.
It turns out that David is far-sighted, which the doctor said he’ll likely grow out of by middle school, at which point he’ll likely start getting more and more near sighted. He didn’t think David needed to wear glasses all day: just during schoolwork and reading. He did say if David wanted to wear them all day, I should let him, but only make him wear them when he’s reading, etc. He said there was no reason for him to wear them outside or during sports.
What surprised me, was when the doctor explained to me what David has likely been going through during school. He’s likely been getting lots of headaches. He has to concentrate so hard to see words on a page that it was literally exhausting him and took all his energy. He told me to talk to his teacher about it until his new glasses got in, to make sure he was getting enough breaks. I said I was his teacher, and that would be no problem.
I bring this up on this homeschooling post, because it’s such a turning point for me. In case you couldn’t tell, this year has been difficult for me so far. The main reason for that is I went from having Silje full time, and David doing school things for maybe 30 minutes a day during his kindergarten year, to having both Silje and David “full time” for a few hours a day. While Silje works and follows directions just fine, David has been needing me by his side every inch of the way. I feel guilty when I can’t help Silje as quickly as she sometimes needs it, and I feel annoyed and exhausted by David not being able to do his work without me pointing to every word for him and sitting by his side for every second of every assignment or project.
David’s glasses are due to arrive in about a week and a half at the latest. His doctor said he’ll no longer constantly loose his place when reading, he’ll no longer need me to point at each word. He’ll be able to concentrate on things longer than 10 minutes without starting to whine. He actually said David currently has to move while reading in order to constantly refocus on the words. Maybe he’ll still move while reading, but at least I’ll know it’s because he’s energetic, and not because he’s dancing around trying to find a distance at which he can see the page! Do you have any idea how these predictions excite me and breathe new hope into this mama’s heart?
School won’t exhaust me, and I may not dread it. I know those words are blunt, but I like to be honest. I love teaching my kids, but this year has been hard. Now I feel I know why, and it’s being fixed. Will we still have bad days? They’re glasses, not a magic-remove-all-sin-from-the-house wand. I understand that. I’m getting so excited for them to come in, and I’m planning all sorts of fun activities and crafts that Silje’s been dying to do, but we haven’t been able to because I can’t tear myself from David for 3 seconds without him needing my help.
David may enjoy these activities now. He’s not a crafty sort of guy, but maybe that’s because he couldn’t see the crafts! Who knows how many things this will change and how far it will reach?
Let me just say, I’m excited to find out.

christinethecurious says			
October 19, 2012 at 12:24 pmWhen my oldest son was learning to read he used to wiggle so hard the couch would sway. Reading finally kicked in for him in 5th grade. He’s a freshman now, reading constantly, he just finished Don Quixote (in translation;-).
My middle son has binocular co-ordination problems, and the older one does too, it turns out. Middle son is picking up on reading now (4th grade) a year after finishing vision therapy and getting glasses.
I wish I’d logged how many novels, text books, plays, instructions etc I’ve read out loud in the course our our homeschool.
One thing: Oldest son read aloud with wonderful expression, middle son prefers him as a reader for some books that need lots of voices. Middle son is a favorite of the co-op drama coach too, he has a feel for how lines should be said. Perhaps from all those hours of being read to?
Anonymous says			
October 19, 2012 at 5:14 pmI will never forget what a specialist at the La Jolla institute said to me when I brought our 6 year old oldest son for a workup a few months after he started first grade. Our son had been super-excited about his surroundings, about learning, about piecing things together, about numbers–EVERYTHING about school–until school started. Within 3 weeks he was pale white, very discouraged, didn’t want to go school and couldn’t tell us why. The author of Why Can’t I Learn (published in early 70’s by Gospel Light, where I was working atht time)talked with me on the phone and asked me a few questions–and had recommended this workup in La Jolla. After the tests were complete, the specialist explained to me all the underlying things that were “wrong” (his brain synapses were not firing, so no “learned information” was being successfully recorded in the classroom setting–such as instructions from the teacher, etc…..I had already gotten used to repeating and guiding him with instructions, I suppose)….sorry this is so long! But this is what the doctor said that stuck with me:
“When the little people are struggling and having a hard time, it’s up to the big people to find out why.”
I have always thought that was such an utterly compassionate and insightful and truthful thing to say.
Sheila says			
October 19, 2012 at 5:22 pmI hope this is just the tool to get things going great for David!
If he is easily distracted working at the same table while other things are going on, I was wondering if you would be interested in a “desk” for him. I have two. One is your typical kids desk with the built in chair and the lid that raises up. Great restored condition. The other is a desk/chair combination that is an antique from some school around here. While it is super sturdy, it could use a little fresh stain.
I was watching 19 Kids and Counting the other night. And I thought of you….not that you are the Duggars (yet), but Michelle has a desk/chair just like the one I have and she uses it in a separate room (large closet) for testing and to teach her one young daughter who has trouble sitting still and concentrating with so much going on around her.
Since I am starting to get very serious about downsizing, I will be looking for a good home for both of these desks.
I am asking you first…..but if you don’t have any desire for either of the desks, maybe one of your blog comment readers who are local may. 😉
Enjoy your weekend….I am hoping our overdue Grand Baby makes their debut. 😉
Mom says			
October 19, 2012 at 8:04 pmAs far as history goes, you might want to check out Mike Huckabee’s website. He has a whole series of things for kids…one of which is “choosing our president” which could be a timely lesson, since we are in that mode right now. Just a suggestion. I’m excited that David will (hopefully) not be struggling so much to read. It’s good to read from others who have gone through it as well.
Melissa says			
October 20, 2012 at 1:43 pmRuby was 3 when she got her glasses. She, too, is very far-sighted. When her glasses arrived, she spent the first several days in the big chair in our living room looking at book after book after book after book! I think she was finally able to make sense of the pictures.